I have heard people say "a man who loses control of his
wife has lost control of his own life", but then you'd ask "what is control?”
To be really confused, look up for the word in the dictionary. I pick up a
remote control and I can choose to change the channel or just put off the T.V,
I get an email and I can choose to read or just hit delete. Now that’s a form
of control, one you'd find in the dictionary. However, it got me thinking, last
week I walked into a cafe, and everyone is so moody and boring, it was like a
burial ceremony, I sat down with my portfolio, looked around, and caught view
of an elderly man at the far end of the corner, I smiled and waved at him, he
smiled and waved back, so also the group behind him who thought my salutation
was actually directed to them. And of a sudden, like magic, the place lightened
up. Now also, this is a form of control. But not like the first, this is an
induced form of control. I've always heard people say, "Be the change you
want to see in the world".
And for the sake of what is carnal I offer this advice. The couple must learn to be six things, six things according to what the situation and time demands. According to what the situation and time demands the spouse must learn to be to each other a
1. Husband/Wife and a Friend
2. Father/Mother and a Son/Daughter
3. Teacher and a Student.
Be in control of your life, your marriage, and your joy, but most of all, be the change you want to see.
