can i forgive and still love again?

If you don’t mind, I’d like you to carry out an assignment.           Go to five successful, aged married couples and ask what there secrete is, or was. You might wanna right down things. Back in your closet, analyze them all, carefully, over and over again. You will see that these people had even greater problems. But what makes the difference? Simple, “where people saw pain, disappointment, and betrayal, they saw opportunity”.            Love is a moving car, it breaks down, there has been, and will only be one mechanic, “FORGIVENESS”. Now, do you say because your car broke down somewhere along the road, you will abandon it? No, it cost you so much to afford it. So is love. I hear them say “love don’t cost a thing”. Wake up! People don’t wanna hear the truth; they want what makes them feel better. Are you man enough to face true facts and reality, or do you prefer to live in false illusions and fantasies, believing only what makes you feel better? Think! It cost you so much to be in love, the splendid times, moments when you are wrapped around yourselves, and you witness the union of minds, and bodies touching bodies, soft tender kisses and looks that drives hot liquid fire burning through your veins, and you cant think of anything else. You smile stupidly at your phone when she rings. Think about it, all the sacrifices, all the things you gave away, just for love. Something that cost you so much to afford, will you just abandon it because it has faulty engine?           Anger is instinctive, anger is inevitable. But you must learn how to control it, absorb it, change it, and use it. Unforgiveness is a handles sword; it will always leave a mark on the bearer.           You can be happy with her; the past has got absolutely nothing to do with the future, if we don’t carry it in today’s train. For me, I see an opportunity, a moment of love lost, and love found, realization and forgiveness, commitment and trust earned. A moment when you can fully understand yourselves and become those who walk across hell untouched by fear and doubt. A moment to rebuild, create legacy, and become an example to thousands of youths in the nearest future. Let’s make the world a better place, it is possible to forgive and still love again.               What you see above is the part that keeps us together, but at the same time, love is not selfish. While you are doing the entire forgiving and winning back thing, make sure it’s what she really wants, make sure she still loves and wanna be with you, make sure she’s worth the price, the pain, the fight, make sure you can have a life together. I have learnt a very long time ago, never to hold anything too tight or too strongly, you’ll break them, or they’ll give you a scar when they finally leave.           Take her outing, to a park of someplace she loves to be. Make it romantic, very romantic. Explain to her, how much you love her, how much she means to you, etc. let her know you are not perfect, but can always adjust to make her happy. Then ask her, if she really wanna be with you, if she feels the same way. Avoid getting into an argument. If she doesn’t want you, you have to let her go. Its better, it will hurt even more, if you try to force her into loving you. No body can force love.           Finally, there’s one thing you must know. “The only security the world has got to offer is when you know that you are capable of dealing with what so ever comes your way”.           I wish you luck!!!